Monday, May 14, 2012

Accept Who They Are

There are some frustrating moments while teaching.  Perhaps it is about the students.  Sometimes it is about teachers.  Often it is about the system.  Feeling of frustration occurs just because you are afraid of losing control.  It is a tragic human nature.  A kind of control is necessary for the best practice in the classroom, of course.  It is often challenging to get along with a certain population of people harmoniously. 

Recently I leaned a trick to reduce from this stress.  Simply accept who they are.  If someone is opinionated, accept it. That is his strength.  As a wise teacher, use them, instead of control him because you will not be able to change his personality anyway.  And it is not what you want.  Many people know that collaboration and teamwork maximize the productivity in their tasks.  Know why?  Because they are happy.  There is no frustration.  What if there is an obnoxious team member?  I will say to you, "Accept who he is."  Then, you would approach to that person, "I know it might be a difficult for you.  Shall we take a break to get some fresh air?"  Letting him talk is a great idea, too.  May be with a cup of camomile tea.  Pretty soon, you would find yourself relaxed.  In other words, there is no sweat in your hands.  There is no wrinkles between your eyebrows.   When you look tense, he gets even more obnoxious.  If you show your compassion, you can find a little sign of invisible agreement or spiritual connection. 

Look at the mirror.  And say, "Accept who he is."  If you see your smile, you are actually controlling the situation.

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